This week I weigh 13 st 8 Lbs, I need to lose another 8lbs in the next two weeks to hit my 2 stone by the Gathering target.
and techniques for making yourself more confident. Something I find
very easy to do now but took a long time to learn is confidence, here
are some of my favorite tricks to make yourself both appear to be and
actually become more confident.
1. Pretend you are/can.
is a very simple trick and one that I have seen work for people
familiar with Roleplaying all the time. At it’s core it is as easy as
the name suggests, pretend you can do something and before long you will
have done it. If you are a Roleplayer and you have done something in a
game or a Larp field then you can do it in real life.
2. “Better make myself look big.”
one sounds pretty weird but works surprisingly well, immediately before
you need to be more confident imagine a giant glowing golden version of
yourself and then step forward, feeling yourself growing to fit into
it. I also hear the Mario Getting big from a mushroom noise when I do
3. Head Scripts
to making yourself look big a Headscript is a short Mantra that you
repeat to yourself inside your head before you do something you are
worried about. It helps unify your body language so that what you are
saying matching your non verbal communication. My favorite is
Cool, You’re Cool, You want to know more about me” ( i usually replace
the last line to make it appropriate to what I am doing, for example
“You want to do an order” is one I use if I have to cold call someone
something simple that is outside of your comfort zone. One of my
favorites is asking pretty girls for their telephone number. Even if
they say no the boost from being able to ask them can be massive.
This is a trick i learned from NLP.
If you have ever been in a situation where you felt completely in
control and confident you can use those feeling again in another
situation. Simply remember that situation in as much vivid detail as you
can, as if you are looking out of your own eyes at the memory. Then
touch an easy to get to part of your body (I used the back of my right
hand for my most powerful anchor.) Do this for 2 or 3 situations and
then when you are in a situation that you need those feelings touch that
point again and you can get them all back. I used this to pass my 2nd
Driving test. I went from 11 minor and 2 major faults to 2 minor, using
What is your favorite trick for appearing or being confident about something?